eHarmony is one of the most popular online dating sites on the net. Does it live up to expectations?
As a dating coach, I have met countless eHarmony users in the last years. What I tell you in this review is a quick rundown of what they had to say.
First of all, one of the most appealing features of eHarmony is the ‘29 Dimensions of Compatibility’ questionnaire. This is a basically a set of questions that will give their matching system the information it needs to match you with people with whom you’d expect chemistry. It is supposed to cover everything from social style to beliefs.
This sounds pretty good on paper, but does it work?
Well, I have to tell you that it does a pretty damn good job if you ask me. Instead of having to browse through dozens of people’s profiles to see if they’re anything like you, you only have to check out a bunch of singles, which is a huge time-saver.
At eHarmony, they say that their software pairs you up not only checking for affinity, but also predicting happier and healthier relationships. I looked into this and found a study from the American Psychological Association with evidence that this could very well be true (you can click here to view the study).
Now, does this mean that it’s all good at eHarmony? Well, obviously no.
Rest assured, eHarmony does try to match you with real singles, and it does its best at it. However, the system is not always perfect. Chemistry is something that happens between two people, but it’s quite hard for a system to predict love. Even though the system is currently being improved, you can’t avoid being matched with people who wouldn’t interest you, and it might not match you with people who would.
Nevertheless, this is something that could happen if you were browsing through profiles yourself and performing your own searches, so all in all I think it’s well worth it.
eHarmony has another feature that I found really interesting.
It’s what they call ‘Guided Communication’. Knowing that breaking the ice and getting to know someone can be pretty challenging, they have a built-in system that helps you get started. Thus, the first few interactions will be lead by their system which will give you a good idea of what would be the best way to say whatever you want to say.
Obviously, this is not for everyone so anytime you want you can move to ‘Open Communication’, where you alone do whatever you want to do.
Well, those are the features that eHarmony offers its users. I know that most people who have consulted me have found these really helpful, and most had positive reviews on the service. They were also happy the amount of men and women was even.
Finally, I have to say that most of the users who told me they did not like the service were not ready to give it a real go. Either they came in thinking it would not work, or they wouldn’t take the time to go the extra mile.
One last tip: finding the love of your life probably won’t happen overnight; it might take a while at eHarmony before you meet that special someone… don’t give up!
Sometimes the other half of your orange could be over 50 miles away, but you will never know if you don’t check it out!