You have met someone special. Maybe you didn’t give him your number (because you don’t like to give out your number). Or maybe you just can’t wait for him to call. Before you call yourself, there’s a few things that you have to know about how to call a guy.
First of all, I must tell you that when you meet someone new, and you enjoy being together, it’s just natural to want to talk to them again, so take the pressure off your shoulders: if you had a great time, he will definitely want to talk to you again.
However, I understand that calling someone you don’t know that well can be a little overwhelming. So if you want to nail that call, here’s a quick checklist on how to call guys.
Don’t: Improvise your opener
When you get him on the phone, you want to have a reason to talk to him. This is very important as it takes a lot of pressure off your shoulders.
Can you see how it feels awkward to call just to say: “Hey, it’s X, we met at Y, remember?” What if instead you said: “Hey, it’s X, I was just passing by Y and it reminded me of last night.”
However, once you’re past that, just act natural. If you know anything he likes, you could bring that up and build it from there.
Do: Look for the perfect timing
Now a lot of women wonder how long they should wait to call. The true answer is that it doesn’t matter at all, what does matter is that you call at the right moment.
You want to make sure that you are in a good mood, and also that you have no distractions. You can’t do the same for him, because you don’t know what he’s doing, but try to call him when you think he won’t be working or eating.
A side note on the ‘waiting time’: even if it doesn’t matter, make sure you don’t take too long to call, because he might take it as a sign that you’re not interested which is a big turnoff.
Do: Know when to end the call
You might be calling him at a bad time. For all you know he could be really busy but you didn’t expect it! So if you feel like he can’t pay you all the attention you need, tell him you’ve got to go, and he can call you later.
On the other hand, you could be having a perfectly pleasant talk. It’s very important to leave things at a high note, so make sure you’re the one who says “talk to you soon”, because you’re leaving him wanting more and he’ll be looking forward to calling.
Finally, if the call is not going well, it’s better to start again some other time. Don’t worry, this can happen, but it’s not the end of the world.
You want to make him feel like you had a great time together. Now bear in mind you’re not persuading him, but rather remembering good old times. Men feel like they have a great deal of responsibility on how an interaction goes, so if last time it went great, he’ll feel good about you.
On a final note, remember that he is going to want to talk to you, so don’t be uptight and enjoy it!
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