How to Flirt with a Guy

Whether you’re at school, at work, at the beach, at a party or just hanging out, you have to know that your best weapon is knowing how to flirt with a guy.

Before I start handing you out my best tips, you have to know that flirting is all about having fun. You have to enjoy the moment, let go of your hang-ups and be in the moment. It is natural that you feel attracted to a man and that he feels the same way about you.

Also, don’t forget that you have to show up to meet guys, so don’t forget to be social and go out.

That being said, there’s a few things you need to keep in mind when you’re flirting with a guy.

Woman Ready to Flirt

Show Him Your Best Look When You Flirt

Tip: Show him your best side!

OK, so maybe you have magnificent hair. Or perhaps you have beautiful eyes. Whatever your poison is, don’t forget that you’ll catch his attention first with your looks, so make sure you draw his attention to what you want him to see.

Make sure too that you’re confident about your self-image too. This may come as a surprise to you, but the way you see yourself has a big impact in the way people see you.

Tip: Let him know you’re interested!

Nothing says don’t talk to me like crossed arms. On the other hand, eye contact and a smile are screaming “I’m a cute girl, you definitely want to get to know me.” So make sure you keep that grumpy look at home and smile like you mean it!

Watch out though, flirting is all about pushing and pulling, so once it’s on, make sure you play with him a little before giving yourself. This creates anticipation and is not only fun, but it also makes the guy realize you’re not an easy girl.

Tip: Stay close to each other!

Listen here, it is key that you’re either sitting or standing very close to each other. This is the only way the dreaded touch barrier is going to fall! Once you’re talking, it’ll only feel natural to brush his arm or have any other kind of casual physical contact –if you’re close enough.

However, if you’re too far away, what will you do? Reach out and grab his arm? Hello! That is weird!

Woman Flirting with Man

Know Every Step of the Way – Play Safe!

So again, make sure you can touch each other ‘without noticing’. Also, don’t forget that he doesn’t have to be first to do it, this is just an extension of your open body language and you have to be ready to touch him too.

Tip: Make sure you hit that ‘point of no return’!

After all, now you can sense that you like each other, so what you want is to be in isolation with him. Make sure your friends know this, so that they can leave the two of you alone. He’ll do the same with his friends.

Now you can start relating to each other and feel a bond grow between the two of you.

I hope this is enough to get you started. For much more information on this subject, you can check out ‘Secrets of Flirting’, which contains heaps of advice on how to flirt with a guy.

19 Responses to How to Flirt with a Guy
  1. Enisty
    March 15, 2011 | 11:38 pm

    This is the best article ever it helped me a lot….and now me and my f r comfortable around eachother

  2. Sheila
    March 16, 2011 | 8:51 am

    Dear Enisty,

    I’m glad you found it helpful! Have fun with your boyfriend! :)


  3. shannon
    March 19, 2011 | 5:56 pm

    im trying to flirt with a guy and i need help

  4. Sheila
    March 20, 2011 | 4:08 am

    Dear Shannon,
    I would recommend you read the article through and if you need more information check out the material I was referring to at the end, it is the most extensive resource I have found on the subject. Good luck!

  5. kaela
    March 27, 2011 | 12:57 am

    Thnx so mutch we will see if it works

  6. Kammie
    March 27, 2011 | 3:42 am

    The guy I like is my boyfriend but I think he’s loosing intrest Annd I dont know how to keep him so I thought of flirting but I just never knew how. Talking to guys always came easily till this guy I love him I dont wanna lose him

  7. Sheila
    March 29, 2011 | 7:48 pm

    Dear Kammie,

    It is a little hard to judge a situation like yours without knowing how long you’ve been together, or what your relationship’s been like so far. I suggest you think of what attracted him in the first place and make him see that in you again. Make sure too that he sees you love him and only him, but that you are also independant. Good luck!


  8. kate
    March 31, 2011 | 2:30 am

    Ok so i have noi idea how to flirt theres this guy whoi sits behind me in english and he plays around with me alot and on the bus sometimes we sit next to eachother and i can tell he wants to talk to me but i dont know how to start a conversation and how to keep it going and ive seen him with some other girls and they have alot of fun but he does this thing by joking around and saying about his friend whos not so attractive, ” aww ur going out with kyle how cute’ just to play with me and idk wut to say bak and on the bus just what do i do when i sit by him cus its usually rly awkward. Pls Help!

  9. Sheila
    April 4, 2011 | 8:28 am

    Dear Kate,

    First of all, the fact that he teases you could mean he’s interested, but he doesn’t want to show it to avoid looking needy. If he teases you about going out with his friend, laugh it off and tell him you could never go out with the guy because he’s not your type. To begin a conversation with him, once yourself close to him (like in class), start a conversation with anything, like a movie you just watched, or some funny story that happened to you that day (or any other day, just say it happened “today”) or something corky on the news, etc. Read the article, there’s more tips there, and don’t forget to check out the book I recommend for much more useful information on the topic. Good luck and have fun!


  10. Maria
    April 5, 2011 | 9:51 pm

    I only see my crush once a week, and every time I see him, I try to flirt or something, but I can’t cuz I get shy. Then one day, I found this article and I decided to use these tips to flirt with him. When the day came, I started talking to him and he said he wasn’t in the mood to talk, so I left him alone, wondering what could be bringing him down. The next day I went on Facebook, and he started chatting with me. This was pretty strange bcuz I’m always the one to start Facebook convos with him and he always gets annoyed and logs off without saying goodbye. This time, he was FLIRTING. He said that my profile pic was hot and my cleavage looked really sexy, and I couldn’t help jittering all night. The next day we talked on Skype and he invited me to go see a movie and hook up :)

  11. Sheila
    April 7, 2011 | 8:48 am

    Dear Maria,

    I’m so glad to hear I helped you out! Enjoy your date! :)


  12. Chelsea
    April 10, 2011 | 4:50 am

    Ok I have had a rough time with this guy I like I am not sure if he likes me or not. He has braged to me he makes me laugh he rubbed my back and he is really nice to me he gives me hugs. He tells me hey. But sometimes I see him flirting with other girls the ones that look better than me he tells me to text him but he sometimes don’t text back or he just texts when he wants to. I just want to know if he likes me or not and if he does I want him to ask me out I just can’t ask him out because he might say no. Help me please. Does he like me? How can I get him to ask me out?

  13. Sheila
    April 11, 2011 | 5:11 pm

    Dear Chelsea,

    From what you’re telling, it seems pretty likely that he’s interested in you. If I were you I would try to bait him to see how he responds. What I mean is that you should give him the opportunity to invest in you. If he does that, not only is he interested, but his interested will grow even more because he has made an effort on you.

    Good luck!


  14. emily
    April 12, 2011 | 10:37 pm

    Hi I have a crush on a guy, he sits infront of me in class. I really like him and have liked him for a long time but I don’t know if he likes me. We talk usally once a day but don’t really hang out outside of class, sometimes I think he likes me but i’m not always sure. A lot of people say me and him would make a good couple even tho they don’t know I like him :) I was wondering how do I tell my best friend I like him (when she doesnt think hes a great guy) and how do I get closer to him so I can ask him out?

    p.s. your tips really helped

  15. Sheila
    April 13, 2011 | 5:18 pm

    Dear Emily,

    I’m glad the tips were helpful :)

    First of all, I think you should trust your best friend, she will likely support you better than anyone else. Now, moving on to the guy, if you have already applied what I recommend, you could play into that role of couple when you get commented on it. Say that you agree, and that you would be great together, but make sure he knows you’re kidding. However, you could make this a recurring joke and see how he reacts to it to move on to something serious. Don’t creep him out and you’ll do great!

    Good luck!


  16. Ashlee
    April 16, 2011 | 3:09 am

    i hope this works

  17. Casey
    April 18, 2011 | 10:00 pm

    I want to post quick hello and want to say appriciate for this good article!

  18. Chelsea
    April 22, 2011 | 3:24 am

    Thank you I will try that(: !

  19. Emily
    August 4, 2011 | 1:13 am

    Thank You Sheila !:)

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