How to Get Your Ex Back

Experiencing a breakup is quite common, but it’s still something you don’t want to go through. What if you could avoid it and get your ex back? The truth is most breakups can be reversed, and with these tips, you’ll be well on your way to that.

Woman Begging

Never, Ever Beg Him to Come Back

The first thing you have to do if you just broke up is wait. You can and should use this time to get your mind off of your ex, engage in other activities, go out and have fun. This important for two reasons: it lets the tension from the breakup moment dissipate, and it also lets you judge whether you’re sure you want to get back together.

If after two weeks, you still want to do this, it’s playtime.

Before you get in touch with your ex, make sure you realize you have to act as if you were first starting to know him again. The reason for this is that, since the latest events lead to a breakup, taking things were they were is not a good idea.

So basically, go back to being the woman your ex fell in love with. What did you look like? Aim for that look. Were you more social? Start being social again. Did you work harder? Get back to work!

By the way, I must not forget to say this one thing because it is key. Especially in the beginning, it’s quite easy to fall into the trap of being needy. Never, ever, beg to come back. Do not even ask. If it happens, it should be natural. If you start begging, it will only drive your ex further away, so be very careful with this.

Also, before I continue, you must bear in my mind that your ex doesn’t hate you, and he probably still harbors feelings for you. This will definitely play in your favor when you try to get him back. Do not forget it, because it is crucial that you realize that even though we’re playing it like it’s the first the time, you have some leverage this time.

Target and Arrows

Target His Soft Spots

On top of that, through the time the two of you were together, you have more than likely acquired some knowledge about your ex. You probably know a lot about him. You know what he loves, you know what he hates, you know his weaknesses.

It’s very simple. For example, if you happen to know his favorite snack is pepperoni pizza, make sure you use this along the way. Not only will he appreciate it because he likes it, he’ll also feel touched that you remember what he liked.

Now, what you want is some strategy here. We know already that you’re going back to the drawing board, so where are you? Are you friends or not even that anymore?

If you don’t hang out or talk anymore, this has to be the first step to getting back together. Do not attempt to get one on one too soon, simply make sure you include your ex in your plans with other people and he’ll do the same.

(This is part one of a two-part article; click here for part two on ‘How to Get Your Boyfriend Back’)

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