How to Know if a Guy Likes You

To be fair, there’s only one way to know if a guy likes you: asking him. However, this is a terrible approach, because you don’t want to risk rejection. Lucky you, there are a few subtle indicators of interest you can watch out for which will tell you almost for sure where he stands.

Guy with Hands in his Pockets

If He Looks Intimidated, He Probably Likes You

The first you want to check out is his body language.

  1. You may know this guy well. If you know he’s kind of shy or really into you, he might get a little bit nervous around you. If he moves his hands around a lot, if he fidgets, then he’s probably nervous.
  2. Another sign that he’s interested could be that he laughs or giggles at everything you say, even if it’s not really that funny. This could be out of nervousness too, or also because he’s trying to qualify you, that is, show that he appreciates what you are saying.
  3. When you are talking, check out where his feet are standing. If they are placed so that his whole body faces you, it means he is interested. Also pay attention to whether he leans in when he talks to you. These two indicators are very common and you can notice them right away, even with guys you just met at the club.
  4. Eye contact is crucial here too. When you look at him and he looks at you, if he’s interested, either he will look away quickly because he was ‘caught’, or he’ll hold that eye contact to build up the tension between the two of you.
  5. On a side note, some guys may try to make you jealous by talking to other girls. You can pick up on that if you catch him throwing quick looks at you while he speaks to them. He just wants to know whether you’re noticing him displaying his pre-selection by other women.

Now, let’s talk a little about conversation…

  1. When you two are talking, does he talk a lot about himself? It doesn’t have to mean he’s self-centered; he could very well be trying to impress you.
  2. On the other hand, does he mention little things you’ve said in the past? The fact that he does this means he’s paying a great deal of attention to your words, which implies that he may like you.
  3. And just how much interest does he show in stuff you like or do? If he’s into you, he’ll probably ask questions about things that are not really that interesting, not because he’s interested in those things, but rather because he’s interested in you.
  4. To finish with conversation, I have to tell you that if he’s teasing you a lot, especially if he does it to you only, it could be a sign that he likes you.

Finally, I’d like to advise you that one of your best tools for finding out if a guy likes you are friends.

  1. If he does, his friends will very likely know about it, and they’ll joke about it when you are around, so watch out to see if they bust his balls.
  2. To wrap it up, you can use a friend to do a little test and see how he responds. Have someone you trust tell him you two would make a great couple. If he says he thinks so, or even if he says he doesn’t know, it means that he probably feels something for you.
Girl Kissing Guy

And If He’s Interested…

I hope you find out that he does like you. If you’re not sure yet, you can check out ‘Men Made Easy’, which contains a lot more information on the subject. Also, if you’re positive he doesn’t like you, don’t worry! The book will give you a step-by-step strategy to make him fall for you.

5 Responses to How to Know if a Guy Likes You
  1. Kacie
    April 5, 2011 | 4:10 am

    This guy in my class always teases me about how soft my hands are. I am sure he likes me. How could I find out?

  2. Sheila
    April 7, 2011 | 8:37 am

    Dear Kacie,

    The good news is that, like you said, guys tease you because they are attracted to you. Anyway, there’s many things you can do. For instance, feel his eye contact, what does it say? Does he smile when he’s around you? This could also be a sign that he’s interested. Also one of the best ways to know is if he reinitiates contact if you stop talking, because it means he wants to keep you interested in him. Read the article, which does contain a lot of information on the subject and if you feel like you want to know more, check out the book I recommend, which is very useful and packed with information on this subject. Good luck!


  3. georgette
    April 18, 2011 | 11:42 pm

    helooo i already have a boyfreind but i need to know if a guy likes me but i seen all the signs and i need to ask him but hes my boyfreinds best mate
    What can i do?

  4. Sheila
    April 20, 2011 | 3:05 pm

    Dear Georgette,

    That is a very delicate situation. First and most important, you have to ask yourself whether you love your boyfriend. If so, you should try to forget about this other guy and not care about this issue. If you are not sure, or if you feel attracted to this other guy, you should think about about what you would rather have, because the two are incompatible and someone (if not all) will get hurt.
    Finally, if you really want to go after him, not just because you want to know, but because you like him, you should pay attention when the two of you are alone: does he get nervous? One more thing: if he tries to create situations where you two are alone, or the opposite (try to avoid moments when you two are alone), he could be interested. This seems paradoxical, but since both are abnormal behaviors, they could very well indicate interested.
    Good luck!


  5. Unknown
    April 26, 2011 | 1:00 am

    I like a guy and I am friends with another guy that told me he likes me. I’m not sure though. I catch him looking at me and I look at him and smile to show him I caught him. He usually blushes and looks away. Thx for your help

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